Substitute Family Care

As the title suggests, the substitute family care serves the children who for one reason or another cannot grow up in their families. It is a sad fact that the Czech Republic is the very worst among the states of European Union, concerning the numbers of children placed in the institutional care. (Some references in Czech: Akompas: Co je to Klokánek? , Ústavní péče , Porušování práv dětí v ústavech a many other references).

We are convinced that there is a sword of God's anger hanging over the Czech Republic because of how the most little ones are treated here. The Bible is full of directions to have compassion and merciful heart, to help the suffering. Instead of that, the Christians follow the secular crowd concentrating on securing their own bellies and on the competition of success. All it takes is to look around and you with horror discover that the child abuse and neglect is not just one anonymous case over there in some lost village in the end of the world. These are children around us, too often from well-situated families, close neighbors, even relatives. It is happening way too often for the Christians to ingore it.

It is similar to the WWII when the Christians lived relatively peaceful lives, wathed their own confort, attended worship on Sundays, and prayed to the God of the Jews who, brutally torchered, were dying in gas chambers.

We do not say that all Christians should foster ten children. But we do read in the Bible that we all are to serve Christ with the deeds of mercy. And that God's heart is with the little ones. Therefore, we would like to shake the Christians and direct them towards the willingness to open their eyes, to leave their filled troughs, and to serve God with risking their own skin.

Often the Christians tell us that we have some special "gift from above," therefore we have to have the kids from the orphanages. But it is not so. We decided to start it knowing that we were weak, at best average parents (no "camp leaders by nature"), and that without God's help we would never make it. We simply "saw the need" and so we offered our home and our hearts to God's plan.

We do not regret, and although we often struggle with problems related to raising children with emotional deprivation, suffering with neglect, hunger, cruel treatment, we nevertheless experience a enormous God's favor and blessing. Even though we fail as authorities, a teachers, even in love (when the patience runs out...), we still have a great encouragement in our parenthood, as we watch all of our children grow up, develop, heal from the past wounds, and change into the presonalities of the kind that the Lord God intended.

Yes, in the institutions the children do get the provision for their physical needs, that's true. But they suffer inside because to know that they do not belong to anybody is devastating. In combination with the lack of emotionals stimuli it results in serious personality disorders. They grow up into emotionally flat people without empathy, without the ability to develop and maintain reltionships, people without faith in good ("No matter what I do I always fail, I'd rather not try at all!"). They are the people with inculcated hopelessness, programmed despair, and destructive patterns for their lives. They will grow up and repeat the hitory of their parents and prepare the same future for their children as they themselves had.

People err in thinking that the children from the institutions are like dry flowers. Withered tiny plants for which just a drop of water would be sufficient for growing back to full beauty. But it is not the case. The lack of love and one-person care changes the flower into a thistle. The children become agressive, rude (or the opposite--weepy), scared, psycho-socially underdevelopped (often the motor activity and IQ do not conform to the age. The children suffer with various psychosomatic diseases (allergies, asthma, eczemas, intestinal problems, repeated infections, even deafness). They tend to lie, steal, masturbate, they calm down themselves by seesaw motion...

When you compares this to a child grown in a loving environment, with a lovely, developped, sweet talking baby radiating with happiness all around, then you will see the difference between God's plan for His most beloved ones, and Satan's destructive action, sabotaging God's plan.

We ask all who feel touched by this: Please visit some of these web sites and choose a particular child(ren) to pray for, and pray that they find receiving families as soon as possible. Please pray also for the abused and neglected children who still remain in their original environment: May such cases be discovered and the children helped! Let us pray also for the organizations that help the street kids (FOD, Teen Challenge and others), may God give them enough money and workers for their activities. They are doing enormous job!

Let us pray for the change of the laws in the area of the Substitute Family Care. Currently, there is a tendency to support the rights of biological parents as much as possible, even at the expanse of the children! Let us pray for the single mothers in need, for maltreated and abused women: May the Lord lead them to wise decisions concerning the fate of their children, may they be willing to change their situation, may they not expose their children to life-threatening risks, or even rid of them brutally (as some do).

Let us pray for ourselves that the Lord change our hearts and we are not insensitive towards the suffering of others.

Let it not seem to you that one of these little ones is of no value; for I say to you that in heaven their angels see at all times the face of my Father in heaven. What would you say now? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone wandering away, will he not let the ninety-nine be, and go to the mountains in search of the wandering one? And if he comes across it, truly I say to you, he has more joy over it than over the ninety-nine which have not gone out of the way. Even so it is not the pleasure of your Father in heaven for one of these little ones to come to destruction.

Matthew 18:10-14

But when the Son of man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then will he be seated in his glory: And before him all the nations will come together; and they will be parted one from another, as the sheep are parted from the goats by the keeper. And he will put the sheep on his right, but the goats on the left. Then will the King say to those on his right, Come, you who have the blessing of my Father, into the kingdom made ready for you before the world was: For I was in need of food, and you gave it to me: I was in need of drink, and you gave it to me: I was wandering, and you took me in; I had no clothing, and you gave it to me: when I was ill, or in prison, you came to me. Then will the upright make answer to him, saying, Lord, when did we see you in need of food, and give it to you? or in need of drink, and give it to you? And when did we see you wandering, and take you in? or without clothing, and give it to you? And when did we see you ill, or in prison, and come to you? And the King will make answer and say to them, Truly I say to you, Because you did it to the least of these my brothers, you did it to me. Then will he say to those on the left, Go from me, you cursed ones, into the eternal fire which is ready for the Evil One and his angels: For I was in need of food, and you gave it not to me; I was in need of drink, and you gave it not to me: I was wandering, and you took me not in; without clothing, and you gave me no clothing; ill, and in prison, and you came not to me. Then will they make answer, saying, Lord, when did we see you in need of food or drink, or wandering, or without clothing, or ill, or in prison, and did not take care of you? Then will he make answer to them, saying, Truly I say to you, Because you did it not to the least of these, you did it not to me. And these will go away into eternal punishment; but the upright into eternal life.

Matthew 25:31-46

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